The HFC Podcast Is Here: First Episode Monday, September 21 at 9 PM
The first HFC podcast episode airs Monday, September 21 at 9 PM—then every Monday night, holidays permitting. Only on Spotify.
The Blog
Real talk.
No filter.
Marriage. Parenting. Trauma. Neurodivergence. Survival. Written by people actually living it.
At 30, the Sim Gem Cracked: Grief, Ego Death, and the Life I Had to Rebuild
My grandmother died when I was 30, and I lost the only support system I felt I had. What followed was less a “midlife crisis” than an ego collapse—and a hard look at grief, codependency, neurodivergence, and rebuilding a self.
When Safe Feels Boring: Why Calm Can Feel Suspicious After Trauma
When chaos was familiar, calm can feel suspicious—or even boring. This Trauma Series post looks at why, especially when trauma and neurodivergence overlap.
Trauma Bonds Aren’t Love. Real Bonds Feel Safe.
A trauma bond can make pain, relief, and loyalty feel tangled together. Real bonds are consistent, respectful, and safe enough for you to stay yourself.
Trauma Doesn’t Stop Your Brain From Developing. It Changes What It Develops For.
Trauma does not freeze a person at the age it happened. It can shape what the brain learns to prioritize—and for neurodivergent people, those layers can get complicated fast.
By the Time I Get the Social Cue, It’s Already a Crime Scene
Missing social cues in the moment and realizing them later can trigger an AuDHD, BPD, and RSD spiral. Here’s what helps me pause, clarify, and repair.
Mostly Fine. Carrying a Small Department Store.
My backpack holds enough supplies for several versions of my day. Trial and error built the system. I’m still figuring out what slips while I keep it running.
Avoidant & Anxious: The Push, Pull, and the Wave of What Ifs
When old trauma gets activated, avoidant and anxious patterns can turn one small moment into a full wave of what ifs, assumptions, and emotional survival mode.
Assuming Makes an Ass Out of the One Assuming
When your brain fills in missing information, it can turn silence into a whole courtroom drama. Ask better questions, respect boundaries, and stop treating assumptions like facts.
The Chaos Has a Home Base Now
A kickoff note on where High Functioning Chaos is now: the blog, podcast, newsletter, store, memberships, and the messy middle holding it together.